Don't get caught up in the idea that you are independent and can do it all on your own. I am that person and I will tell you that it will cause you to struggle far more than you should. Why, you ask? Well, it's simple really. Many times the answer we are begging, pleading, and sometimes even fighting for is right in front of us but, we are so consumed with what issue we're dealing with that's all we see. Sometimes if we teach ourselves to be reliant on an outside perspective to see what we can't, it actually gives us an advantage due to the fact we don't have to fight an immovable object. Just simply step to the side and go around. Again, it's easy to say and much harder to do. If you don't have someone to ask or a higher power to consult, then you're doomed to struggle. If you refuse to ask someone that you do have access to for help, you are also doomed to struggle. Many of us are unaware of the resources we have as humans that comes from our creator. That help comes simply from asking and believing. You might say well, you don't know my situation. While technically true it doesn't remove the fact that I myself have been in a similar situation and took the hard road. 10 out 10 don't recommend. We all need advice from someone that is wiser than us, stronger than us, more spiritual than us. That's not a negative thing although society tells us it is. We all need a mentor that helps us along the way. It's equally important to become a mentor to someone that is going through something that you have successfully overcome. Whether that be addiction, anger, lust, pornography, etc. It is our duty to help those affected by us overcome things so that in the end we rise together. Society tells us to be out for number 1, ourselves. Culture says screw everyone else as long as you benefit from it, however, that will come at price in the end that will be too heavy to carry and too costly to pay.
Two pulling the wagon are far more powerful than one. You might say, "well of course because there are two." However, it goes beyond sheer numbers. If one = 1 power then two = 2.5 power. One might say how does that compute. Other than sheer strength, there is also built in motivation. One protects the other, and there are fewer blind sides to worry about. It's not good for man to be alone. If you've watched the popular TV show Alone, you have witnessed the battle in the mind when people are removed from their support system. It's more of a mental battle to be there than it is a physical battle. Such as it is in life as well. Be strong and do as much as you can do. However, ask for help and guidance to maximize your steps so you can be a good steward of the time, effort, energy, and resources you are given.
Independence or Victory. Rarely you will have both. True freedom is giving control to our creator. Battles then are fought on our behalf under the protection of his love and by his power and authority.